It would be nice if some of these commercial venues and private groups allowed the couples to bring along one of their single FWB now and then...male....female.....bi or straight.....now That would make for one helluva cookout....
I think being a single bi male you have to be lucky....like the old saying "be in the right place at the right time"......I don't see too many commercial venues offering bi nights though some do....possibly meet a couple there a few times and may eventually meet privately.....join some bi groups so your profile gets seen....some of this lifestyle is out of your hands
I always considered myself pretty straight , I was in a mutual relationship with a couple , by accident (I think) there was some interplay , the wife suddenly got hugely excited and wanted to watch her husband perform oral sex on me .
She immediately started to masturbate and came in seconds ..so I agreed and I had never seen her so turned on everyone ended up more than happy .
I was a little shocked how much I enjoyed the experience between the obvious and his wife's reactions .
So it's now part and parcel if the lady finds it erotic .
I always considered myself pretty straight , I was in a mutual relationship with a couple , by accident (I think) there was some interplay , the wife suddenly got hugely excited and wanted to watch her husband perform oral sex on me .
She immediately started to masturbate and came in seconds ..so I agreed and I had never seen her so turned on everyone ended up more than happy .
I was a little shocked how much I enjoyed the experience between the obvious and his wife's reactions .
So it's now part and parcel if the lady finds it erotic .
We are always looking for truly bi experiences. I am fully bi but respect boundaries. Wife loves watching two men enjoy each other. I'm fine without anal but would like kissing caressing nipple play and sucking while she watched. I find people sexy. The gender is not important to us.
For the same old reasons....couples probably feel that having a bi husband cuts back on meeting other couples.....Just be honest....plus people Wrongly believe that being bi means you are automatically going for the husbands cock.....I would guess those people aren't compatible with you anyway.....it can be a pleasant surprise when playing with a couple that your cock ends up in the willing mouth of that "straight" husband and his in yours with his wife helping....again just be honest in your profile
Your reference to bisexuality and reincarnation reminded me of a work by the avant-guard artist Laurie Anderson. She talks about being reincarnated, and how she started as a bird, and then she was a hat, because feathers from the bird were used to make the hat. Then she says she was hundreds and hundreds of rabbis, which she says explains a lot.
It’s a good question. I can’t speak for others, but I actually went through a bit of confusion when it came down to profiling myself as straight, bi curious or bi. There seems to be a continuum where being bi extends from simply wanting to suck cock to add fucking to kissing. I draw the line at kissing, personally. I like sucking cock, and don’t mind some ass play. But don’t like kissing a dude. It’s just a personal preference in terms of what is a turn-on and what is not. I have a girlfriend who knows that I have had sexual encounters with men in the past. It turns her on, so I’m lucky in that way. But I was married before, and never felt comfortable revealing this aspect of myself to my wife. She wouldn’t have understood it at all. But in my case, the desire never went away — I like dick! I’d had several experiences when I was a young person that I look back on with pleasure. But when I finally got married I even tried to convince myself that I was “now straight and that stuff was just youthful dalliance”. I suppressed my interest in dick for various reasons. Now divorced, and with my girlfriend, I have quite a bit of peace of mind and pleasure in life. But I still don’t like being in a minority which excludes me. Nevertheless, that’s how it is and I am responsible for that (if I’m going to be honest with myself and others). And chances are, I will hook up with the right people who enjoy me for who I really am. (But still, I don’t reveal this publicly, only on sites similar to this.) It might take longer or be less frequent, but that’s better than putting up a false front. I can’t judge though, because those guys who list themselves as straight, but have a desire to do something with a male, have their reasons (some of which may be the preservation of a fairly decent marriage and family, so nondisclosure is laudable). I guess I feel a bit sorry for them because they cannot be 100% transparent. And that’s always tough. One last thing I wanna say: it’s always been a question to me why, some of us are bi or gay. I have resolved that for myself, when considering that we may very well be reincarnated over and over, as an evolutionarily process of the human spirit. I think if a person is spending lifetime after lifetime as one sex and finally gets flipped over into the other one, some of those old habits might stick around for a while! Just a thought.
I prefer sexy ass, but I will accept sapioass.
Lol. Smartass.
so glad you raise this question. I don't think anyone has been brave enough to ask before you
For us, this is a 'sometimes' hobby, not really a lifestyle. Our time here on sls has shown us that many single men are single for a reason. Some single men may "talk the talk" but are lacking in substance and/or style, or are just down right selfish when fun times happen. This has made us slow our 'internet' search for playmates. Our profile states we've mostly found play friends at nude or LS resorts. That seems to work for us rather well. We have found a couple great friends here, but seems not the norm. this is just our experience
I get so many messages from "straight" guys who want to hook up for anonymous sex.
These are questions that have baffled bi guys in the Lifestyle for decades.
The simple answer to both questions is that some men are afraid they'll touch a penis and it will make them gay, and some guys are closeted bisexuals married to women who have no idea their husband is bi.
There's always been a bias against single bi guys in the lifestyle, because bisexual men are perceived as being a higher risk for STIs, due to how many of them are married but cheating on their spouses. Since they're not out, they feel the need to engage in risky behavior (e.g. cruising bathrooms) to fulfill their desires.
Why is it so hard to find a couple looking for a bi M for a 3-some? Also, why do “bi” guys have straight on their profile?
