about done with single males

Yeah I'm in pa and single and makes it hard to find a great situation

Ncal, unless you are leading them to believe it is about you...hahaha.

So when my wife was getting a cock slammed to her and she screams, “that’s it, that’s the spot, ohhhh right there, I’m Cumming!”, she really meant slow down, your hurting me..... ummm okay. Gtfo....lol

You need to make one thing very clear on your profile as wells as when you talk on the phone and when you meet a single or married man for sex. He is to make the sex all about the woman's pleasure and then when she is ready she will please him.

This weeds out almost all of the single men and most of the married men. Those that are left are worth checking out. Don't expect the man to read your mind, have the husband tell the guy just the way your wife likes her sex and want you expect him to do to please her.

For example before we play with another couple I tell the man on the phone that my wife has very sensitive breast and nipples, you must be gentle feather like when touching her tits. I tell him that she does not like rough sex and does not like to be pounded during sex. This always works and he tells me what his wife likes.

Makes for some really fun sex.

After vetting about 70 SM over a month’s time, we narrowed down to two finalists, one local and one out of town. We didn’t know how well it was going to work out with the non-local because it hasn’t worked out over the years but for locals, so we took a chance after he offered to drive to us from 3 hours away. We had nothing to lose because we were local to home and we have each other. He was very respectful, sincere about what he was looking for, carried a real nice conversation at dinner. I missed The Mrs. signal twice, so she just came out and asked if he would like to join us for a while....lol

We had an astounding threesome last night and he even gave The Mrs. a true body massage after going 4 rounds in almost 5 hours. They are out there, folks.

~Allen

Completely agree it's the same here in Atlanta

The frustration of talking, arranging to meet, then no show, silence repeat...

Way to many married men pretending to be single and guys playing with you having no intentions of ever meeting in person, just playing with you to get there jollies off

Another frustrated couple...

Wow, it's disheartening to feel (and read) the hostility toward SMs. I've never blown someone off, I've never expected any couple to pay for anything during a first meet (or subsequent ones, for that matter,) I've always been freshly showered and nicely dressed and so forth when we meet, and I always keep my commitments. When I am able to have some intimate time with a couple, we generally have a great time, and I've got a couple of long-term friends from the lifestyle, which has been great even when we're no longer playing together for unrelated reasons.

It's getting a response when I send emails that's so doggone difficult, whether it's to a profile I find interesting or a hot date. These days I'm at least getting more "no thank yous" than I used to-- for a long time I wouldn't even get many courtesy responses. Generally, if we can meet, I can prove who I am in both word and deed, and of course that makes all the difference. It's just so frustrating when I contact couples who are in my (and their) age range, I'm polite and friendly, I can spell, I can write relatively well, I send a current, accurate photo and so forth.

So jeepers, apparently I'm paying part of the price for dirtbag guys who just troll on here. How frustrating!

Come up for next weeks Patriots/Ravens Game & we can high five , hoot & halla at the game & make your sexy wife the center of attention before & After....

I'll second what ^^^^ said. It goes both ways.

Have repeatedly heard, and fully understand the SM frustration. Then again I too have put up with some unique attitudes/drama from married couples and single women. Like in life you have to search for the winners and deal with the losers. No reason to give up: just enjoy the journey!

IntimateNights wife is a hottie. :) You probably have tons of single & married men writing you. You got options so there is no rush but choose wisely. Dont turn this into a chore lol & have fun with it.

We have gone through many single males over the years, have only met one that wasn't a liar. Perhaps that is the reason they are single in the first place. Of course many we didn't meet, as they got caught in their lies before hand. We have given up on them a few times, but keep coming back for more. Either we are stupid or we actually believe there might be another honest single male out there that is also attractive. Beginning to think we may be stupid, the education/experience just doesn't seem to be sinking in. Of course the one single guy we met and played with that was honest, is no longer single.

We always insist on playing at their place that weeds out the cheaters and also the loser's that are living with Mom and Dad

After 20 years in the lifestyle and 15 of them here on SLS ( Redrobyninpa used to be us) I have always pretty much been single male friendly......Yes its hard to find a legit one and one to have on a regular basis.....no offense but most of them are single for a reason.....they are just too stubborn to know it or except it in most cases . YES there are good ones and I have met a few great ones through the years ....another good percentage is the married men trying to act single to get off because they are too stupid to know how to get it from their wife....again too stubborn to know it or except it .....THESE guys have ruined this site and the more importantly the lifestyle.....they have NO CLUE what this lifestyle is and has always been about they just thought it was a way of getting sex without the Mrs knowing and the women here would be ok with it as they wanted sex from other men.....this is a HUGE pet peeve of mine.
Don't feel discouraged ....I have many times . I have said THAT'S IT I'm done with men on here......but it sucks me back in everytime.....why? I know in the back of my mind the ones I have taken the time to weed through and find that have met my needs and me theirs......I have had a rockin sockin good time at times here.....just keep plugging away so that one day one of them will be able too lol. ROBYN!

You can opt to remain hidden from free members (and SM's) under the tool section.

I'll admit, my first instinct is to say "don't give up on us SMs, there ARE good ones out there". I like to think I'm one of them, but that's really for others to judge. But they ARE out there.

But here's the thing. This is supposed to be FUN. If your search for compatible SMs isn't fun anymore, then make a change. Some couples have "no SMs" on their profile, but they privately reserve the option of contacting SMs who's profiles appeal to them (I've been approached by couples who've gone this route and it seems to work for them). Other folks will only contact SMs at parties/clubs. Or you could simply take a break from SMs for awhile. Lots of different options, and you can always make another change later on.

There's douchebags-a-plenty out there (couples and SFs as well as SMs). Don't let them drag you down. On the other hand, there's lots of really nice folks out there as well. Stay cheerful, stay positive, and for goodness sake HAVE FUN!

Please don't give up on all of us :)
Real in Delaware
Jon

Hi Intimate, sorry to hear of your troubles. When your Mrs looks sweet enough to attract all the bad skeeters, you'll need to hang in there and vet more stringently. There are ways to vet better by using times as such a married male would have a lack of ability to break free from his spouse or even by having him host at his place and such.

We closed our profile to SM for over a year when we found a couple SM that became repetitive. We mainly look for couples to achieve things and go places that would be beneficial to both couples. We recently took on the task of finding a few more since the others have found vanilla gfs or felt other than strictly NSA. Three months of vetting and setting up for repetitive encounters and we are finally on our last one tonight to close that open door. What I am getting at, it takes time and can be tedious at times. Tedious can be a light way of putting it as well, as you know. Good Luck!

~Allen

Don't give up!! There are some sincere singles here looking for real couples.

Im about done with single males and the bs you have to go through to find real single males in the lifestyle maybe it is different in other areas but here in De it is so not worth the married scammers you have to weed through thanks to the free memberships these sites offer hoping they upgrade we have met some great singles but as these sites grow so getting tired of the douchebags